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We All Bleed The Same Color #blacklivesmatter

Updated: Jun 29, 2020

Black skin, white skin, and all the tones in between, we all bleed the same color...

Racism can be a difficult topic to talk about and by no means do I claim to be an expert. As a woman of dual heritage, I know all too well what it feels like to be insulted, mocked and laughed at because of my ethnicity. That being said, I want to stress that although my experiences were damaging to my self-esteem, I by no means equate these to that which the Black community have endured. I do however think it’s important for us to share and listen to stories from other ‘POC’ (people of color) to promote a greater social understanding. I'm simply sharing my memories to open up a dialogue as a starting point to a world of peace, love and acceptance.

More importantly, I’ve compiled some educational resources for us; from petitions to podcasts and books all in the hopes that you can join me in learning more about how to be actively anti-racist in whichever format suits you. This is by no means a comprehensive list so please feel free to add to it in the comments.


You’ll have already heard about George Floyd - He was a 46 year old African-American man who died in custody in May after an officer from the Minneapolis Police Department stood on his neck for almost 9 minutes! A month on and still, I can’t even begin to imagine how his family are feeling - My sincere condolences go out to them during this difficult time.

George’s death is a prime example of police brutality in the United States. Not only does it emphasise just how much of a problem systemic racism is today but the video evidence I believe, was the ‘last straw’ for the Black community. Amongst countless other Black victims, Floyd’s passing in particular has sparked a revolution - A mass awakening of the racial inequality and longstanding history of anti-blackness that persists in 2020. The Black Lives Matter movement sees people from diverse backgrounds banding together to fight for significant change; from protests (and riots), to voting and sending letters to MPs, together we have stood in solidarity. While many of us are working towards being anti-racist, my concern is, how do we improve or change the minds of those whose racist attitudes are deeply ingrained? These are the people who should not be allowed to hold positions of authority within our communities. These are the people who really need to do the work.


My ethnicity, my identity and my self esteem - These were the things I struggled with growing up as a teenager. I am of mixed race, part Chinese and part Italian but due to my appearance, I may be perceived as more Chinese than Italian-looking. In actual fact I identify as more Chinese because I have never known the Italian side of my family but that’s another story.

Although the high school I attended was culturally diverse, I experienced racial abuse. I knew that the racial remarks, the chanting of the Chinese-sounding words, (I'm sure you know how they go), the pull of the eyes, and, threats to be beaten up simply for being me were wrong. It was an extremely uncomfortable time for me. I dreaded going to school and the bullying I think is why I took to the lunchtime art club - A safe haven, a place to hide myself away to avoid the torment.

I failed to report this issue and neither did I speak to my family about it. For me, it was easier to be silent and submit to the behaviour of those bullies. I was afraid so to avoid further conflict, I buried my feelings and just carried on in the hopes that the problem would go away. 'If I report this, maybe they will come after me again,’ I thought to myself. I remember feeling on edge when ‘break time’ came around - I should've been enjoying my time at school but I didn't. I lacked the confidence to stand up for myself. I felt less than. I felt outcast and inadequate. It took me a very long time to accept that I was unique but thankfully today looks very different as I embrace my heritage which often inspires my work.


I’d like to be clear on where I stand. I stand against racism and injustice. I stand with our Black friends in seeking change and I stand committed to evaluating and educating myself. I understand that being anti-racist will require a consistent effort but I think continued silence, impartiality and complacency equates to zero progress. There’s no perfect way to navigate this, it will be exhausting, uncomfortable and for many, it will mean stepping out of our comfort zones.

It's important to remember that this revolution is born out of a necessity for basic human rights. I can only hope that the Black Lives Matter revolution will happen in our lifetime. I BELIEVE IN FREEDOM AND EQUALITY FOR EVERYONE, TODAY AND EVERY DAY – THIS SHOULD BE AN INHERENT RIGHT BUT UNFORTUNATELY, IT’S NOT.

Here's what we can do to be an ally:

- Educate ourselves and especially our children - See resources below

- Encourage honest conversations with family and friends

- Share useful resources on your social media

- Write letters to MPs - Challenge power structures that seek to deny the voices and experiences of POC (people of color)

- Protest (if possible)

- Donate to causes (if possible)

- Support black owned businesses and friends


While I don’t have all the answers, understanding racism exists where you live is a good start. Only by accepting it and taking action does growth and change follow. Here are some resources I’ve put together for us to reference. Share this with your family, friends and on social media.


FOR KIDS: books (Some of the stories are centred around diversity and inclusion whereas with others the character(s) happen to be Black, Asian or mixed race)

A Is For Activist by Innosanto Nagara

A Kids Books About Racism by Jelani Memory

Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman

Whoever You Are by Mem Fox

Bilal Cooks Daal by Aisha Saeed

I Am Perfectly Designed by Karamo Brown

Julian Is A Mermaid by Jessica Love

Little Dreamers: Visionary Women Around the World by Vashti Harrison

Little Leaders: Bold Women in Black History by Vashti Harrison

Little Legends: Exceptional Men In Black History by Vashti Harrison

Marisol McDonald doesn't match by Monica Brown

My Mother's Sari by Sandhya Rao

Please, baby, please by Spike Lee

Raising Little Allies-To-Be (Free download)

Sulwe by Lupita Nyong'o

The Name Jar by Yangsook Choi

FOR KIDS: people to follow





@mamademics @moemotivate

@prntgdcolonized @socialjusticeparenting@theconsciouskid


TV & FILM: netflix

12 Years A Slave


All American

American Son

Anne with an E

Black Lightening


Coach Carter

Dear White people

Family Reunion

Fruitvale Station


LA 92

Self Made: Inspired by the Life of Madam C.J. Walker

Seven Seconds

She’s Gotta Have It

Strong Island

The Innocence Files

Training Day

Trigger Warning With Killer Mike

Who Killed Malcolm X?

When They See Us

TV & FILM: bbc iplayer

Sitting in Limbo

TV & FILM: amazon prime video

I Am Not Your Negro

Black Panthers: Vanguard of the Revolution

King in the Wilderness


The Hate You Give

TV & FILM: youtube

Stay Woke: The Black Lives Matter Movement documentary


All links below are apple podcast links but you can listen to these on your preferred platform (Google Play, Spotify)


About Race with Reni Eddo-Lodge

All My Relations

Code Switch

Good Ancestor Podcast

Sip on This

Intersectionality Matters!

Momentum: A Race Forward Podcast

Lynching In America

The Diversity Gap

Revolution Playlist (Spotify)

Say Your Mind

Shine Brighter Together

Sincerely Lettie

Scene on Radio

The Echo Chamber

The Diversity Gap

This Is Spoke

Witness Black History


Afropean: Notes from Black Europe by Johny Pitts

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

Black and British: A Forgotten History by David Olusoga

Black, Listed: Black British Culture Explored by Jeffrey Boakye

Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority by Tom Burrell

Brit(ish): On Race, Identity and Belonging by Afua Hirsch

Dear Martin by Nic Stone

Homecoming: Voices of the Windrush Generation by Colin Grant

Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women White Feminists Forgot by Mikki Kendall

How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

Me and White Supremacy: How to Recognise Your Privilege, Combat Racism and Change the World by Layla F Saad

Natives: Race & Class in the Ruins of Empire by Akala

Race Talk and the Conspiracy of Silence: Understanding and Facilitating Difficult Dialogues on Race by Derald Wing Sue

Raising Our Hands How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Frontlines by Jenna Arnold

Red at the Bone by Jacqueline Woodson

Say Her Name by Zetta Elliott

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison

The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin

The Autobiography of Malcolm X by Alex Hayley and Malcom X

The Windrush Betrayal by Amelia Gentleman’s

Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo

White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide by Carol Anderson Ph.D.

Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge










Jane Elliott




Black Lives Matter: Write to your MP

For Creatives


10 Steps To Non-Optical Allyship

A Guide To White Privilege

Definitions You Should Be Aware Of

How To Be Actively Anti Racist

How To Talk To Your Family About Racism

How We Can Really Defeat The Issue of Systemic Racism

Keeping Up With Anti Racist Momentum After The News Cycle

Racism in the UK: What They Didn’t Teach Us In School

Systemic Racism Explained

What To Say When People Deny The Reality Of What’s Happening Right Now: 1 & 2


Black Lives Matter

Justice for George Floyd Justice for Breonna Taylor

Battle Racism by Updating GCSE Reading Lists

Justice for Belly Mujinga

Introduce Mandatory Ethnicity Pay Gap Reporting


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I hope this post was helpful to you? As I've said, this is not a comprehensive list so please feel free to comment any resources I've missed.

Graphics created by Melissa Selmin.

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